Bend & Break

Recently i read a piece from book & i found these lines: 

"the best friendships bend, which is why they don’t break. The trickiest part is just before the bending bit, when u have to adjust to each other’s different lives & choices".

As we grow older & roll with chaos, one day we'll start to feel the need to formalize friendships in a way that we didn’t before. Like, there are friends we need to speak to once week, friends we need to keep in touch with once a month, friends we need to text every couple of days - & it has to be like an appointment, like clocking in, otherwise things can fall apart. There's a charade of connectivity online, but i know that we need more than that from friends & we're prepared to invest more than that too.

Friendships do go through phases & cycles & orbits. Sometimes friendships do end, like all other relationships, & i’ve become more accepting of that too. I’ve had that with a few friendships over the past 10 years, & i've managed to repair them. How? 

Well, with forgiveness. By saying ‘sorry’ & accepting that u’re different people & u don't have to be similar in order to be great friends. By learning to love the differences in each other & in yourself. Also, u can only forgive when u know your boundaries. Establishing my boundaries & what i will & won’t accept, in terms of behavior, from other people & myself, is something that i know now.