March 19, 2014

This is How You Lose Her

Here's to all the guys, dudes and gentlemen out there..
This is how you lose her.

You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger's voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was 5, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.

You must remember when she forgets.

You lose her when you don't notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you're about to ask a question but you think anything you're about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it's too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you're trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don't even know about yourself, because she pays attention.

She remembers when you forget.

You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she's replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you're fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she's enough and she doesn't need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she's she and she's beautiful, kind and good.

You must learn her.

You must know the reason why she's silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you're there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she's about to. You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she's worthy to be loved, that she's worthy to be kept.

And, this is how you keep her.


  1. nice post!....if only I could make dudes out there undertans this......I feel happy to keep up reading your post.....even if I usually forgot too........hahahaha (^_^)

  2. "She remembers when you forget". I like that.

  3. its a good advise...for me, based on what i know what women wants is a man who there to listen to hes problem,..listen to her good news, listen to what she like/dislikes..and the main point is listen...this is the way i "used" to keep her...hahahaha


  4. This is just so nice. I want to share this! Hihi

  5. Can you tell me where you got this quote from? It is a quote isn't as I have read on several blogs but it seems to be referenced incorrectly. Thanks :)

  6. Can you tell me where this quote is from? It is a quote isn't it? I have read it on lots of blogs but the reference always seems to be incorrect. Thanks! :)

    1. Hi. I found it somewhere on Tumblr and there's no reference. So I don't know where it's originally come from. Sorry :)

  7. can I copy this? promise credit goes to you. its really nice :)


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