December 24, 2012

The Love we Deserve

We accept the love we think we deserve.

That's a quote from a book, The Perks of Being a Wallflower (by Stephen Chbosky), which was really good. It's a beautiful story of a troubled boy who finds hope in a seamlessly hopeless world. I know the movie's coming out, but I recommend you to read the book first. This entry is not about the book by the way, since I've already wrote the review before. Instead, I'd like to talk about the quotes.
I was inspired to write this after having a "YOLO" conversation with a friend yesterday.  

Well, sometimes giving someone your everything doesn’t seem like enough. That's why there questions like, why hasn’t this been working? Why do some stay in unhealthy relationships? Why do some reject those who love them? Why are some so lucky? 
The truth is, we accept the love we think we deserve.

The way we're treated is dictated by ourselves, not others. If you don’t think you deserve to be treated the way you are, the only thing keeping you from walking away is yourself. We’re sad when we think we have the right to be sad. We’re angry when we think we have the right to be angry. So why don’t we love when we think we have the right to be loved?

There's no handcuff of silence. It’s okay to forgive and admit you're wrong. But it’s also okay to leave, walk away from the emotional abuse of that relationship, and don’t settle because you don’t think you can do better. We're imperfect beings. But our imperfections are neither reasons to stay nor leave. We can always do better for others and for ourselves. Your choice is whether the trials pave a road worth traveling.

Allow those around you to love you and love those who surround you. Don’t settle for less and don’t cut yourself short. Because at the end of the day, the love we accept is the love we think we deserve.

I love you. ;)


  1. Hey aemy, good post. Yes we accept the love we think we deserve and we do not jump into a relationship tat fast just because we are afraid to be alone.

    I think when we hurt enuf,the allowance and acceptance is a bit low.and like u said,we accept the love which we think we desrve.

    1. yes, and we do deserve someone better, a relationship that could give us an unconditional happiness :)

  2. Great post! :D I really love this part ".. So why don’t we love when we think we have the right to be loved?"

    Have a great moments dear Aemy! :)

    1. thank u my dear Michie ;)
      happy holiday!! ^^

  3. i really like this :D for a clueless teenager like me

    1. glad u like it. don't get lost in love, my dear. :)

  4. Love this entry gal.. :)
    At some point, it knock some sense to my 'troubled' heart/mind and give something for me to ponder with.. Thanks for the great entry & happy holiday!

  5. yup but sometimes people are expecting much from their partner..
    Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have, right?hehehe



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